Why Self-Love is the Secret to Grounded Motherhood
Why We Cheer for Our Kids (But Forget Ourselves)
Think about it: every single day, our children stumble and try again.
They stumble many times before taking their first steps. Their food falls off the fork again and again. Magnetic-tile towers keep toppling over before finally standing tall. And those tiny socks? They rarely get on the first try—or the second. And what do we do in every moment? We smile, clap, and cheer. We celebrate their effort, not just their success.
Yet when we stumble—especially as stay-at-home moms—our response is very different. A small setback makes us question our worth. Our self-esteem drops. Sometimes, we even stop trying altogether.
The Importance of Self-Love in Motherhood
Here’s the truth: motherhood requires self-love too. Prioritising yourself isn’t selfish—it’s necessary. When you treat yourself with kindness, patience, and encouragement, you’re not only caring for your own well-being—you’re teaching your children one of life’s most important lessons: how to love and respect themselves.
Society doesn’t make this easy. Motherhood is often reduced to a never-ending list of “ands”: she cares for the kids, andruns the household, and prepares meals, and plans the family schedule, and the vacations… the list goes on. But just because the world overlooks these efforts doesn’t mean you should overlook yourself.
How to Start Celebrating Yourself Today
So here’s a gentle (and very quick) challenge for the rest of the year: start cheering for yourself. Celebrate your efforts, no matter how small. You finished a task you’ve been avoiding? Make a little dance in the mirror and say to yourself, “I did it!” You had a full day juggling house chores, food preparation, and kids’ activities? Reward yourself with a nice, chill walk around the neighbourhood, just you and your thoughts.
Follow your own needs, dreams, and passions with the same love and encouragement you give your child. And if guilt sneaks in, remember this: children learn more from what they see you do than from what you say. When they see you valuing yourself, they’ll learn to value themselves too.
From one mother to another,
Stay motherful
